Painful sex is also called dyspareunia. Dyspareunia is defined as persistent or recurrentgenital pain that occurs just before, during or after intercourse. There are two types of dyspareunia in women:
Entry (superficial) dyspareunia, where the pain is felt at the entrance to, or within the vagina
Deep (abdominal) dyspareunia, where the pain is felt in the abdomen.
Dyspareunia is common and may cause considerable distress to women and their sexual partners. It may be caused by structural, infective and inflammatory diseases of the vulva, vagina and internal organs. Psychosocial factors inevitably contribute to and result from, dyspareunia.
Dyspareunia may be primary, i.e. occurred with the first attempt at intercourse and ever since; or secondary, occurring later, having previously had no pain with intercourse.
Pain can occur on every attempt at intercourse or only on certain occasions or in certain situations.
Entry dyspareunia
The most common vulval skin diseases resulting in superficial or entry dyspareunia include:
Deep dyspareunia means sexual pain that is felt in the abdomen, rather than in the vagina. Causes may include:
Recent pregnancy/childbirth
Retroverted uterus (this refers to the position of the womb)
Uterine prolapse
Pelvic inflammatory disease or infection
Endometriosis
Ovarian cysts
Uterine fibroids
Bowel disease especially irritable bowel syndrome (IBS)
Lumbosacralarthritis
Adhesions following previous surgery or radiation
Genital tract cancer.
How is the cause of dyspareunia diagnosed?
A correct diagnosis requires careful history and clinical examination of the whole body including external genitalia, and pelvic examination by a medical expert (eg, gynaecologist, sexual health physician or general practitioner) or physiotherapist. Colposcopy may be performed (this is pelvic examination using magnification and bright light). The site of pain should be carefully identified. Examination under anaesthetic may be required if discomfort is too great to allow a normal internal examination.
In many cases, no physical reason is found for dyspareunia and it is considered a pain syndrome.
How is dyspareunia treated?
General
Intercourse should not be painful. It's important to feel relaxed before attempting intercourse. Foreplay leading to sexual excitement relaxes the pelvic muscles, widens the vagina and releases vaginal fluids. Use liberal amounts of water-based lubricants and apply these to the penis and vaginal opening. Penetration from behind or woman-on-top may be better tolerated.
Don't use scented bath oils or shower gels, soaps or douches.
Emollients help vulval dryness and water-based lubricants or moisturisers are used for vaginal dryness.
Medical treatment
If a cause for the dyspareunia has been found, appropriate treatment should help.
Oestrogencream, pessaries or rings reduce hormone-associated vaginal dryness and are often prescribed to post-menopausal women.
Tricyclic medicines such as amitriptyline can reduce pain.
Botulinum toxin has been used to relax hypertonic pelvic floor muscles (experimental).
An experienced pelvic floor physiotherapist can help in retraining the pelvic floor to relax using special exercises (eg, see exercises aimed at easing pain prior to vaginal penetration - a video by Dee Hartmann). Counselling or behavioural therapy is appropriate for some women or couples.
If vaginal intercourse remains painful, consider other sexual options including massage and mutual masturbation.